5. Always have a public first date - It's understandable, if you haven't "come out" yet, you want to protect your secret, but remember that your life and well-being come first. You can have a casual coffee date without affectionate contact - after all, the purpose of the first date is to ensure that your date is who they say they are. Of course, if you've outed yourself already and are open with your sexuality, then dating in public shouldn't be a problem for you. But: even if it's just a hook-up date, you should meet for a drink at a nearby bar first and not meet at their or your home immediately. Not only for your own safety, but maybe they turn out not to be who they said they were, looking different or have bad body hygene?