"I was an avid user of CollarMe up until all that drama went down. When I heard the news that it was now rebranded to Collarspace, I eagerly went to the new website, expecting that everything would be the same. Boy, I was wrong. It's so hard to connect to people here now compared to the good old days in CollarMe. Back then, out of the messages I'd get, about 80% were from doms who were serious. Now almost all of them are either bots or scammers who just want money but never want to meet up. I guess this is one of the pitfalls of a website that has no price. Or something must've been lost during the transition. I don't know. I think I'm better off trying my luck at FetLife." - Male Submissive (33)
Collarspace Review New Zealand October 2026
Collarspace claims to be the largest BDSM online community, with users from all over the world. All about Collarspace in New Zealand.
2.5poor
Collarspace is a BDSM online community for people who practise the lifestyle worldwide
- Safe, sane and consensual approach
- Over 1.6 million worldwide members
Swingers
Erotic adventures
Hookups
Is Collarspace right for me?
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Members in New Zealand178,000
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28% 72%
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Collarspace New Zealand in 10 seconds
- Collarspace is primarily an online network forA individuals who practice the BDSM lifestyle
- The website implements safe, sane, and consensual encounters
- Advertises itself as a safe space where discrimination is not tolerated and boundaries are respected
- Has over 1.6 million worldwide members
- Most members come from the United States
- Has an outdated web design and interface
- No mobile application
- Offers general free services and options to upgrade - Learn more here
Is Collarspace right for you?
Find out if Collarspace is the right service for you or if there are better options.
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Who is Collarspace for, and not for?
Collarspace is for…
- If you're searching for erotic adventures and casual encounters
- Singles who are looking for sexual thrill and excitement
- For people who are into BDSM and kinky sex
…and not for
- For people looking for serious relationships and deep commitments
- For singles who want to fall in love
- For uptight and conservative individuals
Collarspace pros & cons
- Welcomes all genders and sexuality
- The website allows nudity
- Sexual preferences are clearly outlined on profiles
- Account approval takes time
- The website has many advertisements
- Not all browsers support the website
What Collarspace really costs in New Zealand
Collarspace is free of charge.
Collarspace costs last updated on Oct 9, 2026
Payment options in New Zealand
No anonymous payment.With Collarspace you cannot pay anonymously, the charge appears on your bank statement.
On your bank statement
The provider does not publish the descriptor in its help pages.
As far as our test went, check the order summary or checkout page before confirming.
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Who is signed up on Collarspace in New Zealand?
Exclusively on DatingScout: online member numbers for dating services are usually far off, so we estimate how many people are really on Collarspace from traffic data and interest, updated monthly, with history.
Even though you'll find that some of the profiles have been inactive for years, there's always that helpful list of currently online members on the homepage. There are indeed real people looking for genuine relationships, but it seems like you'd have to weed through the thousands of "findommes" (dominatrixes who practice financial domination) and dormant profiles.
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How does Collarspace work?
Collarspace connects BDSM enthusiasts for casual or serious relationships
Over 1.6M users worldwide, mostly from the US
No mobile app, old interface, and some features need browser plugins
Detailed profiles but slow approval and issues with fake or inactive accounts
Offers events, resources, and admirers lists but has heavy ads
Signing up at Collarspace
★★★★★ 3.0/5
Sign up with
Username & password
Where
Website and Android app
Minimum age
18
Browse without an account
Yes
Couples account
Yes
Required information
- Username
- Location
Optional information
- Your gender
- Partner's gender
- Partner's appearance
- Your ethnicity
- Profile bio / greeting
- Your physical appearance
- Ideal partner questionnaire
- Profile picture upload
Verification
No verification is required to sign up at Collarspace.
Collarspace does not have any verification system in place. You can even browse the site without signing up.
Making contact on Collarspace
★★★★★ 3.5/5
- Free for all users
- Advanced search option (gender, age, sub/dom/slave/switch, etc.)
- Your profile has to be approved before you can send messages
- Everybody can send messages for free
- Collarspace has a chat function
Profile quality
★★★★★ 3.5/5
- Profile photos are as graphic as they come
- You can write personal notes about a user
- Profiles can have journals
- Profiles are moderately detailed
- Profile pictures are visible to everybody for free
- You can edit your profile information later
Our field test
★★★★★ 2.0/5
Design & usability
The website looks like it hasn't been updated since the early 2000's. The tabs on the main menu are really small and you'd have to squint to see them. They don't look like they're arranged in a comprehensive way either. The website is not user-friendly because you can't rely on your instincts to find certain functions. On the visual front, there's nothing (and we mean nothing) to praise, but at least it serves its purpose.
Special features
Showing interest 1
AdmirersFree
Simply put, admirers are users who put you in their favourites list. Since all features work both ways, this means that the profiles you favourite will know that you've favourited them. If you're shy, this can be a good way to facilitate conversation (a.k.a.: have them notice you and talk to you first). If you want to stay anonymous, you can use the "Notes" feature instead.
Community and events 2
ResourcesFree
The Resources are a list of guides to help you navigate your way not just through the site, but through BDSM as a whole. There are links on knowing your limits, how to become a good ally for the LGBT+, honouring the transgender community, all the different sexualities, and so much more.
EventsFree
Public events are posted here and can be attended by anyone. The events are diverse and range from balls, to flea markets, to pride parades. There are conventions for doms, parties for swingers, and support groups for women.
Final results
2.5poor
“Although Collarspace has a promising premise, the execution is a tad disappointing. The website is outdated and quite difficult to navigate around. Many of the profiles are either fake or have been inactive for a long time. There's also the issue about security. Since a person doesn't need a profile to browse the different accounts, anyone can basically "prowl" around these public profiles and do whatever they want with the information they find. For more secure website on casual dating, check out our Casual Dating category.”
Is Collarspace right for me?
tested October 2026
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Making contact3.5
Profile quality3.5
Field test2.0
Overall2.5/ 5
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In your review you say that the waiting period for profile acceptance is 24-48 hours. Try again. I've been waiting a week. I stupidly changed my profile not realising I wouldn't be able to speak with established friends while I awaited acceptance. Now I've been waiting for a week and still can't speak to my friends.
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Collarspace FAQ
Who owns Collarspace?
Collarspace is reportedly owned by Bayshore Software Technologies Inc. in California.
What happened to CollarMe?
CollarMe was the original domain of Collarspace. After news broke out that there was a falling out between its two creators (which you can read more about if you Google it), CollarMe was shut down and renamed to Collarspace. All data remains intact.
Is Collarspace safe?
Yes. Collarspace doesn't send out your information to third parties. As a general rule, don't share your private information, be careful about your photos because all of these profiles are available for public view, and don't send money to any stranger online.
Is Collarspace fake?
No. Collarspace is a legitimate website for those who practice BDSM.
What are the Collarspace terms and conditions?
You can view them in full here: collarspace.com/tos.asp.
Is there a Collarspace mobile app?
As of writing, no. There aren't Collarspace mobile apps yet.
Is Collarspace on Facebook?
Yes, but their page is either private or has been suspended.
USABILITY
What is the Collarspace photo grid?
It was a search feature that showed your daily matches arranged in a photo grid. It has been reportedly disabled for technical reasons.
How can I read my mail on Collarspace?
On the main menu, click on "Read Mail".
Is there a spam filter for Collarspace?
Yes. you can set your filters in your inbox.
What does "Profile not found" mean?
If you can't view their profile this means that either the profile has been deactivated or the owner blocked you.
How do I unblock someone on Collarspace?
It seems like you can't, so really think about it before you block someone on Collarspace.
How do I delete my Collarspace account?
On the main menu on the left, you will find a button labeled "My Account". On that page, click on "Close Account" on the upper right corner.
CONTACT
How do I contact Collarspace for help?
There is a support tab on the main menu. You can contact their team there, but they've also linked a FAQ page in case your question was already answered.
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