"I'm a dominant male, and it is so hard to find submissive women in bed. I tried using the site, and I found some interesting members. Communication is easy since the app is free. But other members never reply or answer like jerks. FetLife is okay. Nothing to lose anyway since almost everything is free." Andrew, 32
Fetlife Review New Zealand October 2026
Are you in for some unconventional fun? Explore the world of BDSM with Fetlife, and give yourself a life. All about FetLife in New Zealand.
3.0fair
FetLife is an adult dating site and social network for BDSM, fetish and kink communities
- Ten million members worldwide
- App available for Android users only
BDSM
Flirts
Erotic adventures
FetLife New Zealand in 10 seconds
- FetLife is a social network for the BDSM, fetish & kinky community
- Focuses on the world of sexual fantasies like BDSM, fetishism, and kink
- Has ten million members worldwide
- FetLife is gender and sexuality inclusive
- The app is only available for Android users
- Verifies accounts via email and phone number
- Organizes nearby events, groups, and places
- The website offers general free services. Learn more here
Is FetLife right for you?
Find out if FetLife is the right service for you or if there are better options.
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Who is FetLife for, and not for?
FetLife is for…
- If you're searching for erotic adventures and casual encounters
- For people who have fetishes and into kinky sex
- For singles who are into the BDSM lifestyle
…and not for
- For people looking for serious relationships and deep commitments
- For singles who want to fall in love
- For people who are uptight and conservative
FetLife pros & cons
- Many options are free of charge on the site
- Offers an array of fetishes and kinks
- Has a huge base of members
- Mobile app is not available for iOS users
- Many users don't upload real photos
- The overall look of the site is outdated
What FetLife really costs in New Zealand
Compared with other dating services, FetLife is cheaper than most.
Support FetLife
This is monthly support, not a one time pack. It pays for a profile badge, today's most loved pictures and videos, and a Friend Feed 25x further back. It does not renew automatically.Total
6 months
5.00 USD / month
30.00 USD
Our pick: 6 months costs 30.00 USD at 5.00 USD per Month and gives the paid support features. We pick it because 12 and 24 months cost the same per month, so committing longer brings no price gain.
12 months
5.00 USD / month
60.00 USD
24 months
5.00 USD / month
120.00 USD
FetLife costs last updated on Oct 10, 2026
Payment options in New Zealand
Bank TransferCredit CardDirect DebitGiroPayPaysafecardBitcoin
Anonymous payment possible.The name FetLife does not appear on your credit card statement, the charge shows up under a neutral name.
On your bank statement
BitLove Inc. or BitLove Ltd. billing
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Can you try FetLife for free?
- You can test FetLife free of charge
- You can at least read a message for free to try the service
Take note:
In FetLife, members don't pay for a premium membership. They give "support" to the site by donating a specific amount per month. Members who send their support through their credit cards will receive billing from BitLove Inc., and not FetLife.
Free services
- Messaging
- Viewing of Photos and Videos
- Join Groups
Paid services
- A sexy I Support FetLife badge on your profile.
- Perv today’s most loved pictures and videos
- Go back 25x further in your Friend Feed.
How to cancel your FetLife subscription →
Try FetCircle free →Who is signed up on FetLife in New Zealand?
Exclusively on DatingScout: online member numbers for dating services are usually far off, so we estimate how many people are really on FetLife from traffic data and interest, updated monthly, with history.
As mentioned, the site's foundation is based on the sexual interests of the creator of the FetLife. This roots from having difficulties in finding a woman who will share sexual fantasies with him. Using the site lets members access an extensive database of like-minded individuals who share similar views about the Fetliife BDSM, Kink, and Fetish communities. They can also meet those who are newbies or are interested in trying.
More than half of the members of FetLife come from the United States. The significant number of members exists because people are becoming more open to these kinds of set-ups. They like to explore their sexualities and try new ways of spicing up their sexual lives.
Based on data, more members are males. Almost 3/4 of the whole population are men. However, it doesn't mean that there are very few female members. A quarter of the total number of members is still equal to around two million members around the world.
Don't hesitate to register if you are still new to the concept of BDSM, Kink, and Fetish. One of the purposes of groups is to discuss topics and learn new things from each other. You may opt to read the public comments silently, or you can actively participate in the discussions.
Meet members who are mostly millennials between the ages of 25-34 years old. This is expected since this age group is composed of members who are very familiar with the use of technology. They are also at the age where they are independent enough to explore their sexualities without thinking of other people's criticisms.
68,000+6%
Estimated active members in New Zealand
900
New members per month in New Zealand
68,000
Members in New Zealand
64k
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Estimated active members, last 6 months
Gender
24%
18-24
28%
25-34
17%
35-44
14%
45-54
17%
55+
Age of members
Where FetLife is most popular in New Zealand
Strongest regions
- Taranaki100%
- Southland72%
- Hawke's Bay61%
Last data update: October 2026
How does FetLife work?
A dedicated space for individuals exploring bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism
Connects over 10 million members worldwide from diverse genders and orientations
Offers discussion groups, events, blogs, and profile sharing for interaction
Protects member privacy by keeping their information and photos hidden from Google
Send and receive messages freely to engage with other members
Signing up at FetLife
★★★★★ 3.5/5
Sign up with
Username & password
Where
Website and Android app
Minimum age
18
Browse without an account
No
Required information
- Username
- Date of birth
- Location
- Your gender
- Profile picture upload
Verification
- Email verification required
Aside from the email address, Fetlife will also ask for a phone number for verification purposes. They will send verification codes to your email and phone number to confirm your account.
Making contact on FetLife
★★★★★ 4.0/5
- Message other members for free
- Search bar helps you easily find who you are looking for
- Meet other members through the explore tab
- Sending messages has a similar format to sending simple emails
- Search for nearby members by clicking on Perv Kinkster Nearby on the conversations page
- Everybody can send messages for free
Profile quality
★★★★★ 3.5/5
- Fill-out six tabs of information sheets to complete your profile
- Uploaded photos and videos are automatically displayed on your page
- Your activities will be shown on your profile
- Let your friends write on your wall and format their post the way they like
- Friends and followers list can be found on the profile page
- Profile pictures are visible to everybody for free
The FetLife app
★★★★★ 3.0/5
- FetLife App can be downloaded in .APK format for Android phones from fetlife.vip
- Not available on Google Playstore and App Store
- Mobile version can also be accessed using different browsers
- All app, desktop, and mobile versions are simple and easy-to-use
- Around 70% of the members prefer using the app/mobile version compared to the desktop version
FetLife has an app version available only for Android phones. However, it can't be downloaded from the Google Playstore. It is available only in .APK format and the link can be found on the fetlife.vip website.
For iOS users, they may opt to use their browsers such as Safari, Google Chrome, Mozilla Firefox, and the likes to download the .APK version
All the three versions-- app, desktop, and mobile versions, are simple and easy-to-use.
Based on usage data, 70% of the users prefer to access the site using their mobile phones. It may be due to the convenience of having the phone anytime and anywhere. On the other hand, the desktop version is a convenient choice for members who are just always at home.
It is possible to send and receive messages in the app version. However, there's a time-out for you if you've reached the maximum number of sent messages and requests. This case happens most especially when you send messages to anyone even if you don't know them personally). The time-out lasts for a few hours.
Notifications can be turned on to keep you updated on the discussions and happenings in FetLife.
Other functions are the same as the desktop version, so don't worry about going back and forth your phone and desktop to check things out.
Lastly, you can be discreet about having the FetLife app on your phone. Change the setting of the app to show only the generic logo as an icon.
Overall, people are satisfied with using the app compared to the desktop site.
Our field test
★★★★★ 3.5/5
Design & usability
The overall design of FetLife is easy-to-use and straightforward. It even has FAQs on the side for some parts of the site to give guidance to the users. One example is the maximum file size of the video that you can upload on your profile video. This readily available guideline prevents users from making a mistake and saving them time and effort.
Not all may like the colour combination of the site, which is mostly black and grey. Some texts are in red. It may seem so dark and not appealing to the eye. However, it greatly represents the mysteriousness of the community.
Even members with just basic ability to navigate a site or app wouldn't get lost in using FetLife. What you see is what you get. It is not hard to use at all.
Special features
The features of FetLife are just simple. However, there's one feature that makes it different from regular dating sites:
Finding people 1
FetishesFree
This feature lets a member explore the fetishes that he or she is interested in. By clicking among the choices of fetishes (there are more than 60 of them), you will be redirected to the list of members and groups with the same interest. There's also a list of related fetishes that you might want to check out too.
Final results
3.0fair
“FetLife offers an effective way for its members to open up about their sexuality and sexual fantasies. It helps them embrace their innermost desires and others as well.”
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tested October 2026
Signup3.5
Making contact4.0
Profile quality3.5
App3.0
Field test3.5
Overall3.0/ 5
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Cancelling your FetLife subscription
How you can cancel
- Via your profile settings on FetLife
Contact details
| Company | Bitlove Inc. |
|---|---|
| Address | Suite 125, 718333, Brooksbank Avenue, North Vancouver, British Columbia, V7J 3V8 |
| support@fetlife.com |
Do subscriptions auto-renew?
Your FetLife subscription does not renew automatically.
Money-back guarantee
- FetLife offers a money-back guarantee with a full refund
- You have 7 days to cancel and get your money back
Refunds are limited to one per person.
FetLife FAQ
What is FetLife?
FetLife is a social networking platform for the BDSM, fetish, and kink community, founded in 2008. Members connect through discussion groups, private messaging, and event listings, and more than half of FetLife's user base comes from the United States. Unlike typical dating apps, FetLife has no traditional premium subscription, members can optionally support the platform through monthly donations instead.
What kind of sexual fantasies are not allowed in FetLife?
FetLife doesn't allow pedophilic fantasies, incest, zoophilia, necrophilia, scat, and animal cruelty.
Why can't I add my partner on a relationship status in FetLife?
Make sure that you are friends with your friend in FetLife before adding them to your relationship list.
Can I delete a photo that I uploaded in FetLife?
Yes, you can delete a photo that you've uploaded. Click on the picture and the link to remove it will be shown there.
What kind of video formats are allowed to be uploaded to my FetLife profile?
Any video file can be uploaded. If you are having a problem with uploading, you may email the support team.
What is "perv"?
Perv in FetLife means you check out, view, or see something.
PAYMENT
Is my "support" to FetLife automatically renewed every month?
No. You renew your support manually.
I am not satisfied with the FetLife. Can I get my money back?
The site has a 7-day return policy. However, it is only applicable if you send your support through any of the payment options, except the following: Gift card Trade-In, POLi, Paysafecard, or Bitcoin.
How will my FetLife support appear on my credit card bill?
The billing will show BitLove Inc.
Can I give support to other FetLife members?
Yes, you can. On the send message option, you'll find "Gift Support." Just click on it and send your little gift.
Can I send support for just a month?
No, FetLife support is for a minimum of 6 months.
SECURITY
Who should I contact if I have questions regarding my privacy in FetLife?
For any questions regarding this matter, send an email to privacy@fetlife.com.
Can I delete the information that I've already submitted to FetLife?
Yes, simply go to "Edit Profile" and "Settings" page to edit or delete the information.
I don't want to be a part of FetLife anymore. Can I delete my account?
You can delete your account permanently or just deactivate temporarily.
Is it safe to use FetLife?
Using FetLife is safe since all the information you shared is encrypted. Also, your deleted information is automatically deleted on their servers as well.
Are there fake or scam members on FetLife?
FetLife claims to do its best to prevent such kinds of members from existing on the site. However, you may report it to them if you notice some unusual profiles so they can check.
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